Sorry guys! Sometimes ditching the blog is a form of self care! Let's get started blogging (again).
So last time my hubs looked at porn, I wasn't too upset. I was just like, "figures" cause he won't put a filter on his work computer. But I DID come up with a new boundary for myself, for self care. My husband and I IM during the day instead of talk on the phone. Here is what our convo looked like when I presented the boundary:
Camilla: so I have a new boundary (don't be worried) When you have looked at porn, I may or may not make dinner the next day, depending on how I feel.
Husband: are you serious, or do you just not want to make dinner?
Camilla: I am serious, when you look at porn I need to work to not go on a downward spiral by taking time for myself and connecting with the kids and allowing myself to let go of some responsibilities.
Husband: I think that is a great idea.
Camilla: plus, when you look at porn, that way I get something out of it. I don't have to make dinner!
So there it is, a new boundary. I was nervous to present it because it seems so trivial and small and non important, but if it helps me, it helps me, no matter how small. And it's important to ME.
Maybe my next boundary will be that when he confesses, he has to confess and then make me brownies!
